Chastity is a type of play where one partner is denied sexual release, and both partners find it exciting. Often it involves the use of devices like cock cages, chastity belts or sheathes to prevent the one in chastity from getting off… while also adding to the fun by making them constantly aware of their locked-away genitals.
For many people, chastity play is something they do for short periods when they’re together – during play sessions or dates. But there’s no reason not to play with chastity over longer periods. Some people enjoy engaging in chastity play over the course of days, weeks, or months – even on a “permanent” basis.
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Why do people like long-term chastity?
Caveat: the internet isn’t real life
Caveat: have you tried the honour system?
Considerations for long-term cock cage wear
Myths about long-term chastity
Selecting a cage for long-term wear
Why do people like long-term chastity?
There are many reasons why people enjoy long-term chastity play. Here are a few…
Long-term chastity is exciting
Being locked away for long periods of time can be an exciting experience. That may seem counter-intuitive at first – after all, what’s exciting about not getting off? But, the simple act of not being able to cum whenever you feel like it makes some men more horny rather than less.
This is, in part, a physiological thing: if you don’t cum as often, the orgasms you do have will be more intense. It’s also a mental thing: if you can only cum once in a blue moon, it’s really quite exciting when you do get to cum. And, of course, there’s the hot and squirmy pleasure of spending hours, days or even weeks fantasising about your next release.
Long-term chastity shifts focus (and might make you a better lover)
Some people who try long-term chastity report that it improves their sex life, and makes them a more attentive lover. Not being able to use their cock (unless their keyholding partner allows them to) means that men in chastity have to learn to enjoy sex in ways that transcend just sticking it in.
Men in chastity may become better at, for example, giving oral pleasure – both because (with their cock unavailable) they do it more often… and because the emphasis has been shifted from their pleasure to their partner’s pleasure.
This gradual shift to being more invested in their partner’s pleasure is one of the most widely-reported (and rather wholesome) results of long-term male chastity.
It enforces loyalty
A man whose cock is locked in a cage cannot help but be loyal to their keyholding partner. After all, their keyholder literally is the only person who has access to them.
Obviously, having your partner wear a chastity cage is not actually a realistic way of keeping them from playing with anyone but you… but it can be fun to play around with the idea of enforced loyalty within a dominant/submissive dynamic nonetheless.
Long-term chastity makes you feel constantly connected
The weight of a cock cage between your legs is an all-day every-day reminder of your keyholding partner. It’s a way to feel connected even when you’re apart. It’s a way to take your play from a just-in-the-bedroom thing to an all-day-every-day thing.
And, of course, it’s worth noting that chastity is something you can play with even when you’re a long way away from one another. Here are some suggestions for engaging in chastity play at a distance.
Caveat: the internet isn’t real life
You can find a lot of horny stories penned by men in long-term chastity floating around the internet. While these are a fun read, as horny things go, it’s also worth noting that most of them are somewhat fictionalised.
When people answer questions about long-term chastity on FetLife boards or question-and-answer forums like Quora they often don’t give their honest experience, and instead engage in a kind of roleplay – writing out a horny fantasy of long-term chastity as though it’s really happening to them, and playing along with others who pen similar fantasies.
If you’re new to these online spaces (or to chastity play) it might not be clear at first glance that this is what’s happening. You might think that the things you read online are real accounts of things that people have really done.
They’re not, though. So don’t measure your enjoyment of chastity against what you read online.
Caveat: have you tried the honour system?
Cock cages cost money, and can be fiddly things to integrate into your life on a long-term basis. For this reason, many people who enjoy playing with chastity do so without a cage – using the honour system to keep the “caged” partner from getting off.
This is totally viable, and a fun and free way to engage with chastity play.
That said, cock cages are a lot of fun. If you can deal with some of the difficulties inherent in using them for long-term play, you might find them enjoyably worthwhile.
Considerations for long-term cock cage wear
Here are some things to consider if you do want to use a cock cage on a more long-term basis.
Comfort during long-term chastity
Wearing a cock cage (even for a long time) should be a comfortable experience. Really the only discomfort you should feel is as a result of getting erections while wearing the cage, or being so horny that you don’t know what to do with yourself.
Naturally you might also experience some chafing or pinching when wearing a cage long-term… but these can be minimised by wearing a cage that’s the right size for your cock, and taking frequent breaks (see “supervised release during long-term chastity” below).
Many people find that being completely shaved (or waxed, or veeted) makes for a more comfortable fit: the cage slides into place more easily, and there are no hairs to get caught in the locking mechanism. You may wish to shave, wax or use hair-removal cream before you go into your cage, and at regular intervals throughout your period of long-term chastity.
Conversely, some people find that removing hair makes their skin more sensitive, and thus increases discomfort when wearing a cage. If this is the case, try shaving/waxing/removing hair a day or two before you’re due to be caged to give your skin a chance to recover.
Keeping clean in long-term chastity
Having a big hunk of metal or plastic locked to your junk can make keeping things clean a little tricky. It’s basically impossible to properly clean your cock with the cage in place. For that reason you might want to schedule in a supervised release each day (for example, while showering) to get clean. Make sure your cock and balls are completely dry before putting the cage back on.
Whenever you clean yourself, also clean the cage. You can rinse it in the shower with you, wipe it down with skin-safe cleaning wipes, or even stick it in the dishwasher if it’s made of stainless steel.
Also, whenever cleaning yourself, give your junk a quick look over to check for any chafing. If you notice any, you should give yourself a break until it heals. Chafing should be minimal with a correctly-sized cage. Well-fitting underwear can also help to hold the cage in place and prevent cage movement that might lead to chafing.
If a daily supervised release is not possible, you should at least arrange one with your keyholding partner every few days.
Pissing with a cage on can be tricky. You will, of course, have to sit down to do so. Stray spray can be reduced by ensuring that your cage isn’t too big or too small. If the fit is just right the tip of your member should line up well with the handy little piss slot on most cages.
Supervised release during long-term chastity
Even if everything is fine and you notice no chafing, it’s good to give yourself a break from chastity once in a while. Many people advise occasionally sleeping without your cage. Most cocks get hard intermittently throughout the night, and it’s thought that it’s good for your general cock-health to sometimes allow it to do so.
It’s up to you and your keyholder to decide if you get to get off during your regular releases. Not being allowed to ejaculate might lead to some oozing of pre-cum when you’re horny, but shouldn’t have any serious health effects.
Emergency release during long-term chastity
Your keyholder might not always be nearby to let you out of your cage… even if there’s a good reason why you need to be released. For emergencies, it’s good to have a spare key on hand at all times.
To prevent casual usage of this emergency release key, you may wish to put it somewhere inconvenient – perhaps in a sealed jar that must be broken to access the key, or in a tin of paint that must be spilled. Storing an emergency key in this way prevents it being misused for unsupervised releases.
Myths about long-term chastity
There are a good few myths about long-term chastity. Here are a few of them.
Cock shrinkage
Lots of people report that their cock shrinks after using a cock cage for a long time. There’s no evidence that this is true.
As you play with cock cages more and get used to wearing them, you might find that you’re able to fit yourself into a smaller cage than you could before. This is the result of you becoming more adept at putting the cage on, and more relaxed and confident at handling it.
You also might feel a bit emasculated, and have the feeling that your cock (now basically useless) is smaller than it was before. This is entirely in your head… but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy it.
Erectile dysfunction
Does wearing a cock cage for a long period of time cause erectile dysfunction? Many people believe this. One common rationale is that a cage prevents your cock from ever getting hard… and cycles of hardness and softness are natural for a cock.
There’s no real evidence that wearing a cock cage long-term causes erectile dysfunction – especially if you keep it clean, take regular breaks and put a pause on things if you don’t feel comfortable.
Indeed, almost all users note that their ability to get erections when they want to is not impacted – and, in many cases, users find themselves way more horny after a period in a cage than they were before.
Selecting a cage for long-term wear
When selecting a cage for long-term wear, it’s especially important to pick one that’s comfortable and a good fit for your cock. You can get away with wearing a cage that’s a little too big or too small during brief periods of chastity… but when playing long-term any problem with the fit is going to become more and more noticeable over time.
For best fit: an adjustable cage
A good way to get used to chastity is to start with an adjustable chastity cage. The Hands Off Silicone Chastity Cage comes in two different sizes, and has a range of different rings and spacers. This allows you to start with slightly more space and adjust to a tighter fit if needed.
For easy maintenance: a stainless steel cage
Most cock cages are easy to clean, but if you’re concerned about hygiene a stainless steel cage is a good way to go. The Helpless Metal Cock Cage is a good example. With no enclosed portions it’s east to keep things clean, and the stainless steel design means that the cage itself is robust and easy to clean.
For profile: flat or low profile cages
If you’re likely to be wearing the cage out and about, you may want to prioritise reducing the bulge that’s visible under your clothes. If you’re an experienced cock cage user, a flat or micro cage, such as the Little Nub Permanent Chastity Belt. A tiny cage like this will keep you contained and minimise any visible bulge under your clothes.
For comfort: multiple cages
If you’re practising chastity long-term, you may benefit from having multiple cages at your disposal. For example you might prefer a micro cage during play sessions, but a more comfortable cage for every day wear. You might want to stick with a stainless steel cage on a day to day basis because of how easy to clean it is, but have a plastic cage on hand for when you want to travel.
The more well-fitting cages you have at your disposal, the more options you have. Have fun!
I just can’t find a keyholding mistress.
It can be really tough to find the right partner – but keep at it; I’m sure there’s someone out there for you!